For those new to the term, the basic definition of gender fluid is:
a gender identity which refers to a gender that varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. Their gender can also vary in response to different circumstance.That's a pretty broad definition that can seem confusing to people sometimes, especially if you don't experience it. So, let me first explain that gender fluid is a broad term open to personal interpretation. This is because no one is the same and experiences or feels the same. Especially gender fluid people. We don't all fit into the same box or check mark list.
I, personally, flux between feeling a mix of female, male, both and neither. I'm in a ebbing tide, where I could feel one way one day and another the next, or even feel a shift halfway through the day.
My mom once equated it to a prism that broke up the linear spectrum of gender and reflected little bits of female, male, and androgyny to form a image (think tie dye or marbling on a cake, it's all intermixed and connected). And as time passes the reflections change to formulate a new image.
How I've equate it is: it's not just 1 part female, 1 part male and 1 part androgyny. It's a changing mix of all three. It's like taking 3 different colored paints, throwing them together, and mixing them part way (not to the point where there's one distrubing murky color). Once you're done you end up with this concoction that is not just the original three colors, or just the original three colors swirled into each other and over lapping, but both those AND there's new colors added into the mix as well. And that mixture is constantly changing.
I understand that this may not make sense to you. But explaining these feelings is really hard.
The only thing I seek from those around me, is that you understand I am valid. You cannot change my gender idenitiy to suit what makes you most comfortable. That is rude and hurtful. I am genderfluid. To assign me to female or male only is the same type of erasure as telling a bi/pan person that when they're in a relationship with someone of the opposite gender they're straight and when it's the same gender they're gay/lesbian. I am neither female nor male. I am gender fluid. I am me.
